Are you feeling stuck? You are not alone. As a dietitian and nutrition counselor, I talk daily with clients who want to improve their health but are frozen by frustration and disappointment with their perceived failures. These failures, however small, chip away at self-confidence and become a burden over time.
I have good news: it’s not you -- it’s your goal that’s the problem! A haphazardly created goal is a recipe for disaster. A thoughtfully crafted plan, on the other hand, provides positive reinforcement and sets one up for success. Consider the three steps below for creating long-lasting, meaningful change.
Step 1: Have an attitude of gratitude. If negative reinforcement hasn’t worked for you in the past, consider a more compassionate approach. Though it may seem counterintuitive, developing a sense of appreciation can help break down barriers to change. To get started, think of a healthful habit you’ve established or challenges you’ve overcome—and give yourself a hearty pat on the back. Change is difficult! Incorporate gratitude into your daily routine: Start or end your day by thinking of things you are thankful for. Give thanks before meals. List the physical activities you enjoy and plan to do one each week.
Step 2: Clarify your intention. Unimportant goals will weigh you down. For example, do you feel you should lose weight because all your friends are dieting? Rate the importance of the change on a scale of one to ten. If it’s not a ten, keep digging through the "shoulds" until you find what’s truly important to you.
Step 3: Develop an action plan. A goal is a desired outcome, and an action plan will help you achieve it. A vague or overambitious plan sets you up for failure. Make your plan as specific and realistic as possible. Rather than "lose weight," you could aim to eat more low-calorie fruits and vegetables by “adding one serving of fruit or vegetable to lunch for the next week.”
Reevaluate and adjust your plan often, making sure to give yourself credit each step of the way.
Toby Morris, MS, RD is the owner of Intent Nutrition, http://www.intentnutrition.com/, a nutrition counseling and consulting company.